"What will I do when I grow up?"

I feel like no one understands me. I'll try to be clear....I am not sad because my friends are getting married & having children.

If I had one piece of advice to give to younger girls, (or any girls really- you know about 8 and up) it would be to have ambition and plans for your life. Some kind of answer for the "What will I do when I grow up?" question.

Number one
Q: Why "What will I do when I grow up?"...?
A: Because you have to have drive and purpose for your life- plans to fulfill. (and everyone wants to know the answer anyway)

Number two
Q: Why not "What do I want to be when I grow up?"...?
A: Because you can not make any plans that include or are contingent on anyone that is not currently in being or existence.
(IE: to "be a Mom" means you must get some children to fulfill your dream, and to "be a wife" means you need to have a husband.....)

And real life is not like that. It's not like shopping- no matter what people will tell you. So if your plans are contingent on someone else, and they don't come to pass, you kind of feel like a failure. a flop. Like you did not graduate school. (or something like that)

Someone needs to explain that to Bill Gothard.

I hope that I don't sound sour or bitter- I do not mean to. I am not sad because I am not married- I am sad because I did not know what I do now back then....

I just feel like a middle-aged man who needs to make a completely different career change. Whoa- -what a shift in thinking.

One more thing:
There are more Jills than Jacks in this world.

Thank you for letting me say all this.